Working from home during COVID-19 makes me sick of my partner

My boyfriend and I have been working from home for the last few months because of COVID-19 and I realized there are tons of things I hate about him. Is it harsh to break up with him during this time? — Done with It 

Dear DI, 

Our ongoing period of uncertainty, combined with a complete overhaul in day-to-day living, means problems can really bubble to the surface. Add to that the crazy-small flats that Hongkongers are stuck in while working from home, and we have recipes for full-blown disasters. 

On this front I completely sympathize with you. But you were pretty vague in your letter. What exactly are the things that are making you hate him? Would they still be a bother if you weren’t working from home? I’m just trying to understand whether it’s working from home that is amplifying some inconvenient truths that already exist, or whether working from home IS the problem itself. 

Of course, if you do want to break up with him, then don’t let me stop you. Only you know what’s going on in your relationship. Most of the time, when people ask questions like these, they’re hoping for the person to tell them what they actually already know, but are perhaps afraid of confronting.

Also, I say this time and time again to people who write in with their relationship problems — please communicate honestly about any issues you have with your partner.

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