Dear Lulu Jeh: My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we have a very rocky relationship. I am being proactive in trying to fix the situation. However, I feel my friends are not very supportive of my efforts and all they keep telling me is that he is not good for me. How can I try to make this work if the people around me just don’t feel it is worth my time? — Trying My Best
Dear TMB: Your relationship is your relationship and you shouldn’t care too much about what other people say. However, sometimes trying to see things from other people’s points of view could end up being very helpful to you.
Do you have any inkling on why people are offering their opinions to you? Have you actively sought advice from your friends? Perhaps the reason why they are telling you that he is not good for you is because they’ve witnessed, over the years, that your relationship has indeed been rocky.
Kudos to you for trying to work things out — I believe communication is always a healthy approach. However, you shouldn’t discard what your loved ones are saying to you. If they truly care about you, they can only be coming from a good place, after all!