How do I go on dates in Hong Kong during Covid-19? It seems like everything is going back to normal but I’m still worried about meeting new people. The pandemic and the pressures of dating combined feel overwhelming. — Single Afraid Female 

Dear SAF,

We live in a world now where connections happen at the swipe of a finger. People have so many options that we’ve lost the sense of really getting to know someone on a deeper level. In Hong Kong in particular, the transience of the city isn’t exactly doing those in search of meaningful connections any favors.

I like to think of this period we’re going through as a chance to hit the reset button — especially when it comes to dating and relationships.

We’re in quite a fortunate position in Hong Kong, where there are no official lockdown rules in place and where numbers of new cases have been consistently low for a number of weeks. So as long as you observe the rules surrounding the number of people you meet and follow guidance on hand-washing as well as the use of sanitizers and face masks, I think you’ll probably be fine. You can also opt for dates in open spaces, like parks, rather than restaurants or bars (note: please always remember personal safety comes first, and to always let a trusted friend know where you’re headed).

But I understand what your concerns are. There’s an option lots of folks are considering when it comes to dating — especially in parts of the world where mandatory lockdowns are in place: virtual dating. Feel free to spend some time talking to your date over text and the phone, then set up video sessions with them.

The bottom line is you need to do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If you feel that going out on dates right now, while the pandemic is ongoing, is going to add to the pressures of dating, then by all means take all the time you need for yourself. 

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