Dear Lulu: I think I’m ready to be in a relationship, but I’m not ready to put in the effort of going out to find someone. I’ve been this way for years now and I’m starting to think I may not ever be prepared to put in the work. What can I do to change? — Lazy And Alone
Dear LAA: A lot of people fall into bouts of inertia after they’ve been off the dating scene for a while. They’re so comfortable with being single that they’ve lost the drive to go out there and meet people — and it sounds like that’s what’s happened to you.
There is no straightforward answer to this, really — it’s up to how you want to go about it. The truth is, if you don’t feel ready to go out and date, then nothing anyone can say will make you want to go out and date.
Why don’t you ask yourself what you really want? You are the one who’s going to have to make the effort to go out there, after all.
Have a question for Lulu Jeh? Write to firstname.lastname@example.org for some anonymous dating advice.
Want more dating advice? Read more of Lulu Jeh’s sage advice.