Dear Lulu Jeh: I’m married to a fantastic guy but we’re both working so much that we hardly have time for sex. How do I make sure we’re both still satisfied? — Busy Bodies
Hi BB: Sounds like you’re both very career-focused and have relegated sex to a lower priority. I just want to hammer home the fact that work and sex aren’t mutually exclusive — more of one doesn’t have to mean less of the other. But in a city like Hong Kong where everyone’s short on time, busybody couples — especially those who have been together forever —sometimes let intimacy fall by the wayside.
To keep the fire alive, why not schedule in some mandatory “together” time at least twice a week, just as you would a Pilates class or a client dinner? I know, I know, the idea might not sound romantic at all, but before you accuse me of being clinical, hear me out: it’s the thought that really counts here.
Just having a dedicated block on the calendar might be all the reminder (and foreplay) you need to rekindle the old flame. And if you’re feeling a little extra adventurous, try sexting midday or working side-by-side at home… in nothing but your panties. Let me know how it goes! — Lulu
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