Dear Lulu Jeh: I met this girl at a house party a few weeks ago, and I’ve since been on a few dates with her. She seems ready to take the relationship forward and make it something more serious. We haven’t been physically intimate, so I’m not sure why she’s so keen. I’m not ready to get into a relationship right now — and fine with just seeing how it goes. How do I handle this? — Diamond Bachelor
Dear DB: For those who are devoted to the person they are dating and ready to take it to the next level with them, this scenario is their worst nightmare!
Sorry to make you feel bad right off the bat, but this is a situation that is just not fair to her. If you get the feeling that she is keen to move to the next stage of the relationship, yet you’re not — then you need to let her know, and bow out.
Imagine if you really wanted to be with someone, and you kind of get the feeling that they might like you — but they act hot and cold at the same time.
Just because you haven’t been physically intimate doesn’t make it any better. You shouldn’t waste her time — nor your own, really — if you’re not interested in being in a relationship.
Also, don’t ghost her!
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