Dear Lulu Jeh: I’ve come to realize that I am just a little bit too comfortable with being single. The idea of going out to meet people and date bores and scares me. I’m not particularly bothered about coming out of this rut, but sometimes I feel quite lonely. How can I change my attitude? — Singleton In Between
Dear IB: Society places such an emphasis on partnerships these days that it leads many people to think that there is something “wrong” with them for wanting to stay single.
There’s really no “right” or “wrong” when it comes to things like these. If you feel you’re in a good place and don’t want to date, then who’s to say you should do anything otherwise?
I’m sure everyone tells you that when you feel lonely as a singleton, you can fill your calendar up with hobbies and activities. What I say is, you should open your mind to meeting new people, without sacrificing what you’re comfortable with. It’s all about finding a balance, which is hard, but if you’re not exactly desperately wanting to be in a relationship, then why not give it time?